Personal pleasure

I admit having shocked, scared and stunned quite a few people over the last few years, as I came to know my sexual self better. For reasons I still can’t quite understand, that side of me has really taken a life and a voice of its own. And it has led astray one of my friend onto the wicked path along with me. Not that she is complaining that is… And nor is her partner ;-). So the question this really comes down to is this: Do men really do it more often … than me?

I shamelessly admit that personal pleasure is a regular activity of mine. And let me tell you, most single women who deny engaging in this fabulous pass time are blooming liars. Come on girls, let’s be honest, even if it’s just through a soft nod of acknowledgement, you enjoy it just as much as I do.

But then, I think this is bringing us back to the female revolution and our ability to be honest and frank – although probably no as much as I – about our sexual habits.

It might be a good time to clarify that I was a late comer to the pleasure of the flesh – with other people that is - and in consequence, was more than ready to explore it further … God, I sound like a nymphomaniac... I am NOT, don’t listen to a thing Ash says! I'm just really open about everything in my life, which I know scare a few people - men especially - away. But I can't change this side of who I am, I like her too much.

I guess this is where I blatantly confess using feminism to my advantage. I’ve always though that openness makes for greater sexual experience and have always been very honest with my partners. How can one be expected to know exactly what makes the other tick if you never ask? Unfortunately, this is where I tend to forget men have feelings and hangs up too… But I’m working on it.

As I discovered the joys and delights of being a sexually independent woman, I also found out more about the world of adult themed toys. A new fascination was born. I have always been aware that sex sells, but there was a brand new take on the expression. At first, it was mostly as a joke that I bought my first adult toy.

But, being single and in my early 30s – peak of the woman’s sexual appetite apparently, let’s just hope it never dies! – I soon discovered the additional benefits of having electrical appliances that didn’t have to be kept in the kitchen. For a start – and please, dear male friends, don’t take it personally – I won every time!!! What else could a girl want, I ask you? Oh yes, I hear you, they won’t keep you warm at night you cry, and I totally agree with you, but so far, I haven’t yet met the one who will kick my little box right out of my bedroom…